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Dear Carla,

I don't want a boyfriend. I've felt this way for a couple of months now and I'm starting to wonder if something's wrong with me. Is it okay to want to just hang out with guys and kiss them and have a good time or do I have a problem?

Jane

No jane, you're totally normal. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that this is one of the healthiest and most balanced Love Q&A letters I've ever read.

You're probably feeling like you should want a boyfriend because that's what your friends want (or obsess about). But as you already realize, dating casually can be just as—if not more—fun than being tied to one boy.

Not to play down the awesomeness of having an automatic romance date and the overall good feeling of love, but becoming serious also often means giving up a lot of freedom. You're probably just not ready for that. Now's the time to get to know a bunch of different guys (platonically or romantically). It'll help you figure out the kind of person you want your future boyfriend to be. 

And remember Jane, when and if you want, sex must go deep, right?...  But, play it safe, ok?

Kisses,   

Carla Miranda, PhD in Sexology